Meet Deana Tolstunov, LMFTA

I specialize in providing collaborative and effective psychotherapy that supports clients through gender and sexuality exploration, relationship and life transitions, deepening intimacy, pleasure, and desire, exploring BDSM/kink, and processing the shame and stigma that can surround such topics. My training as a Sex Therapist makes me an excellent fit for individuals, couples, and 2+ relationships ready to explore and expand their understanding of themselves and their sexual lives. Wherever you are in your journey to healing, let’s work together to help you create lasting, positive change.

My approach is curious, authentic, compassionate, direct, and resourceful, with room for laughter and silliness when it feels right. Sessions are tailored to each client and can look like helping you get to the heart of an issue, exploring what meaningful goals and growth look like for you, and experiential exercises to use outside of therapy. You are the expert on your life, and I am honored to support your path toward healing.

I strive to provide trauma-informed and culturally empathetic therapy with a foundation rooted in HAES (Health at Every Size) principles, sex worker alignment, neurodiversity-affirming care, and advocacy for BIPOC and erotically marginalized populations, including the LGBTQ+,  kink, and polyamorous communities. As a white, Jewish, queer, non-binary femme and the child of immigrants, I understand how important cultural identity is. I will work with you to explore what identities are most salient for you.

My passion for learning, connecting with people, and getting to the root of things led me from teaching sex education to practicing sex therapy, where deeper exploration is central. In my spare time, you’ll find me gardening, jumping in the lake in all seasons, and cooking elaborate meals with my community. 

Finding the right therapist can be hard. I encourage you to schedule a free 20-minute consult here to see if we're a good fit. If we’re not, I’d be happy to provide you with external referrals.